Monday, March 18, 2013

Mind Your Own (Bloody) Business!

Tempat: Tengah tunggu lift nak naik umah
Mase: Pagi
Para pelakon: Dot, Leman, Makcik melayu dukung cucu (todler) + makcik cina

Dot tgh dok berborak ngan makcik cina pasal takde air pepagi tadik..
Sambil tu cuit la kaki cucu makcik melayu tu.. and senyum kat dia..
Attention masih kat makcik cina tuh yg dok bercerita pasal air..

Tetiba..

Makcik melayu kategori stranger: Istighfar.. Istighfar lah seratus kali sehari.. (she said that to Dot)

Dot yg blur: Errmm.. oo..kayyy.. Kenapa? (seriously i was so blur. Aku siap tgk Leman tapik Leman
pon buat muka blur)

Makcik melayu kategori stranger: (sambil terus berubah muka dia).. Laa.. istighfar laa.. Tau kan istighfar??

Dot yg masih blur plus insulted now: Saya tau la istighfar.. Tapi untuk ape ye? (dah aku plak yg bunyik mcm jahat sebab nak tanye kenapa nak kena istighfar kan.. Tapi makcik nih tetiba jek suh istighfar so aku nak la tau sebab ape kan.. Takkan dia suh istighfar seratus kali just because air takde..)

Makcik melayu kategori stranger yg annoying: Untuk mendapatkan zuriat laaa..

Dot yg insulted (TWICE!): Buat muka sambil pegang perut. Pehtu tunjuk perut sendiri..

Makcik melayu kategori stranger yg annoying dan penyibuk: Ooo.. dah ade ke? alhamdulillah..

Pehtu bila makcik cina dengar dot tgh pregnant terus la dia plak sambung membebel2 suh jgn makan itu ini.. suh makan itu ini..

Cecepat Dot ngan Leman naik lift..
Huhuhuhuhu

Both of us still cant believe the nerve of that makcik..

Ini lah dia orang melayu..
Seriouslyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What the F makcik?
Perlu ke sebuk sampai macam tu sekali?

Gaya dia suh aku beristighfar tuh macamkan aku tak pernah berdoa pada Allah nak mintak zuriat sebelom nih? Itu belom gaya dia judging macam kan aku tak reti beristighfar?? Serius WTF sangat kan?? Padahal aku takde intention pon nak share ngan dia aku tgh pregnant.. Cause it is seriously not their bloody business kan..

Ini lah masalah orang melayu especially makcik2 (I'm stereotyping here but who cares kan)..
Bila orang lambat dapat anak sikit mula la depa menyibuk..

Ye betul..
Maybe they have only good intentions..
But the way they convey their nasihat seriously insulting and most of the time hurting!!

Lucky I am already pregnant this time around when she did insult me..
What if I was not pregnant yet..
Mesti balik umah kesat air mata..
Air mata yg pada mulanya langsung takde tanda2 nak keluar pada pagi isnin yg indah ini..

See..
So what did you accomplished so far makcik?
Bagik orang terasa hati and bersedih..
Renti2 kan la menyibuk hal orang..

You got 10 cucu?
Good! Be thankful to Allah..
But don't need to judge other people..
Kalau Allah delaykan  rezeki anak.. ade lah Allah permurahkan rezeki lain tuh..
So takyah la yg menengok tu nak susah hati sangat..

Admittedly, both of us took longer than the deemed normal time to conceived..
So what? Dah itu yg tertulis oleh Allah..
So stop judging and start living your own life!!

Actually case kat atas tuh not the first time when it comes to "unwanted" nasihat..
Orang2 yg senasib ngan Dot mesti faham kan..

So let me give youols (yg senasib ngan Dot) a piece of advice..

"YOU DO NOT NEED TO LISTEN TO EVERY SINGLE ADVICE PEOPLE THROW YOUR WAY!"

Maybe you can listen.. No problem.. Masuk telinga kiri kuar telinga kanan sudah..
And since people have the right to give us unwanted advices.. We in turn have an equal right not to accept them right? It's our BODY.. it's our LIFE.. it's our RIGHTS!

For me..
After a while (5 years tambah tolak) TTC, I only choose to listen to my professional gynae.. Why? Cause i paid good money to get his advice.. After berusaha, the rest hanya berserah dan bertawakal kepada Allah SWT... But hey if you choose other alternative ways, I am totally not judging you.. It's your life remember..

And if i were to listen to every single advice people throw my way..
Hiro, Charlie and TumTum mungkin tgh merempat kat pasar borong Selayang at the moment!!

Buat kawan2 yg sedang TTC,
Dot doakan yg terbaik untuk anda..
May your dream come true soonest possible.. Amin!

PS: I am ever thankful to my families and friends for their support and doa.. Dengan izin Allah and berkat their doa, I am blessed with this tiny miracle growing inside me. Alhamdulillah.

PPS: For those of you who knew anyone whose TTC, please don't give them unwanted advices. Instead of helping, you're only making it worse for them. Instead, just give your support and your doa In sya Allah. 

Monday, March 11, 2013

Stretch Marks!

Sambung cerita mase pegi jumpa gynae aritu..

Mase tuh dah baring ready utk scan..
Doctor dah siap letak gel..

Pehtu doctor dgn selamba nya cakap..

Doctor: "Owh.. you're getting a stretch mark"

Dot: I'm sorry?

Doctor: "You have a stretch mark there" (pointing at my tummy area yg dia dah siap letak gel sikit)

Dot: "I do? Where????"

Doctor: "There" (tunjuk kat area perut iols)

Dot: "Owh..that is just my old laps scar right doctor?"

Kahkahkah.. Confuse tak korang? Nih sapa doctor sapa patient nih? Takkan la Doctor Dev tak cam laps scar aku, padahal dia yg buatkan operation tu dulu utk aku kan.. hahahhaha..

Pehtu Doctor tak puas hati.. Siap amik tisu lap balik gel yg dia dah letak.. hahahahha..

Doctor: "No. Not the laps scar. Here!"

Dot: Intai perut dlm posisi baring. Mase nih dah nak nanges. Tu la malas lagik sapu Palmer's strecth mark cream tuh kan..

Doctor: "Owhh.. wait.. Maybe it's the mark from your pants. Yes, it is."

Dot: Hahahahhahaha.. You're scaring me doctor!!

Saje tau doctor ni kasik iols gabra. Tanjat gegirl..
Rupanye bekas sluar jerut iols kat perut.. Hahahahaha..

Anyway, the check up went well..
Cuma macam tak puas sebab kejap sangat.
But knowing the baby's doing fine is enuf for mummy :)

Doctor try nak tgk gender dia..
Tapi tak clear..
So doctor pesan "don't buy any baby cloths yet"

Hehehe.
Comel jek doctor nih kan..
Insyaallah by next check up boleh tau dah..

Anyway, after my check up..
Sekarang lebih rajin sapu lotion (bila teringat :P)
But i hate the Palmer's smell.. Tapi byk lagik sayang plak nak beli yg lain..
So bantai la letak baby oil or baby lotion.
Mintak2 la takde stretch marks.. Aminn..

Lepas tuh pon..
Still bertahan tanak beli maternity clothing..
Sanggup letak gelang getah ikat barang utk sambung butang suar keja.. hahahha..

I did bought the pant extender or whatever it is call from Mothercare tuh..
Buat membazir 79 hengget iols.. Sebab perut iols takde la besar sgt (ini sendiri mengaku)..
Nak zip tak muat.. Nak pakai menatang tuh longgar kang londeh suar iols time meeting tak pasal jek kan..
So kembali la mengguna kan khidmat getah ikat barang.. Hahahah..
Leman beberapa kali membebel suh beli baju and suar baru sebab daif bebenor rupa bini nya ikat suar pakai getah.. Hahahaha..

Setiap kali masuk kereta iols bukak zip dulu..
Kalau dok kat office lelama pon bukak zip tapi agak cuak gak la takut terlupa and pegi meeting flash satu meeting room.
T_______T
Worst night mare!

On my tummy size..
As at date I've been insulted few times already..
Pfftt!!

Memula hari tu by non other than En. Leman..
Aku tgh siap2 pakai make up nak pegi keja..
Baju belom pakai lagik (tapi bra pakai la. Kang kalau tak pakai bra lain citer nye plak. Hahahaha)

Leman: "Sayanggggg"
Bini: "Whatt?"  (Punya la kuat dia jerit terkejut iols pepagi buta)
Leman: "Besarrrrrnye perut?"
Bini: Tergendala pakai make up sekejap.. Gave him my most intimidating look.. and asked him.. "Do you wanna die?"
Leman: Hahahahahahaha

Huhuhuhuhu..
Tak sure la nak react macam mana youols..

Lepas tu kat office pon ade gak kena beberapa kali..

Mase tgh amik air semayang kat toilet.. Ade budak intern nih innocent jek tanye..

Budak intern tak sayang nyawa: "Akak dah berapa bulan?"
Dot: "Dah nak masuk 4 bulan"
Budak intern tak sayang nyawa: "Owwhhh.. besar nye perut akak.. Selalu orang dah 5 bulan baru perut besar macam tuh!!"
Dot: Sengih jek la (sambil pujuk hati silalah bersabar. Jangan pukul anak orang tak baik! Huhuhuhu)..

Ape la yg nak dipelikkan sangat youols..
Kalau badan iols pre pregnancy macam Kate Middleton tu ye la patut youols heran..
Ini sebelom pregnant pon iols memang dah ade perut macam orang pregnant 2 bulan..
So bila dah 4 bulan harus la dah macam 5-6 bulan kan..
Pfftt.. Lagik nak insult2 iols tau..
Kecik ati lemak2 simpanan iols selama hari nih..
huhuhuhu..

Anyway..
Semalam dah ku borong baju2 and suar2 maternity first round..
Kalau ade jugak confuse aku buncit atau pregnant iols redho jek la..
Asalkan anak dalam kandungan sihat walafiat yg lain2 tidak penting sudah :)

Muntah2 sudah berkurangan..
Masih jugak ade maybe once a day (or sometimes berjaya tak muntah langsung depending on my lucky days)..
Tapi sejajar dengan pengurangan muntah.. Tahap kesabaran dan tolenransi ku juga turut berkurangan.. Huhuhuhu..
Sekarang nih mmg cepat annoyed la especially kalau pasal kerja..
Lepas nih iols rase patut bawak tasbih la pegi keja.. Huhuhu..

Oklah..
Sekian saja update utk kali ini..
Insyaallah berjumpa lagik di waktu rajin yg lain (very rare nowadays!)




Friday, March 01, 2013

oh baby

Today we got to see our baby again.
:)

Tapi mcm tak puas jek sbb rase mcm kejap sgt.
Huhu.
Doctor still tak dpt nak confirm the gender.
Oh well, maybe next month.
Mummy is not in a hurry. Believe it or not i can still control myself in shopping for my baby's stuffs. Hehe. Err.. But i've bookmarked the online shops and with the shopping carts semua dah berclick. Hahahaha.

Anyway. Doctor tanye.. "Do you want a boy or a girl".
As cliche as i sounded, i answer him honestly straight from my heart. "I dont mind Dr as long as its healthy :).

I am not kidding you. Allah had granted me my wish and i this is not a time for me to be picky. I am ever so thankful that im blessed with this pregnancy, and i will gladly and humbly accept this gift be it a girl or a boy.

To be continue.


"i honestly don't mind doctor as long as its safe and healthy