Monday, March 18, 2013

Mind Your Own (Bloody) Business!

Tempat: Tengah tunggu lift nak naik umah
Mase: Pagi
Para pelakon: Dot, Leman, Makcik melayu dukung cucu (todler) + makcik cina

Dot tgh dok berborak ngan makcik cina pasal takde air pepagi tadik..
Sambil tu cuit la kaki cucu makcik melayu tu.. and senyum kat dia..
Attention masih kat makcik cina tuh yg dok bercerita pasal air..

Tetiba..

Makcik melayu kategori stranger: Istighfar.. Istighfar lah seratus kali sehari.. (she said that to Dot)

Dot yg blur: Errmm.. oo..kayyy.. Kenapa? (seriously i was so blur. Aku siap tgk Leman tapik Leman
pon buat muka blur)

Makcik melayu kategori stranger: (sambil terus berubah muka dia).. Laa.. istighfar laa.. Tau kan istighfar??

Dot yg masih blur plus insulted now: Saya tau la istighfar.. Tapi untuk ape ye? (dah aku plak yg bunyik mcm jahat sebab nak tanye kenapa nak kena istighfar kan.. Tapi makcik nih tetiba jek suh istighfar so aku nak la tau sebab ape kan.. Takkan dia suh istighfar seratus kali just because air takde..)

Makcik melayu kategori stranger yg annoying: Untuk mendapatkan zuriat laaa..

Dot yg insulted (TWICE!): Buat muka sambil pegang perut. Pehtu tunjuk perut sendiri..

Makcik melayu kategori stranger yg annoying dan penyibuk: Ooo.. dah ade ke? alhamdulillah..

Pehtu bila makcik cina dengar dot tgh pregnant terus la dia plak sambung membebel2 suh jgn makan itu ini.. suh makan itu ini..

Cecepat Dot ngan Leman naik lift..
Huhuhuhuhu

Both of us still cant believe the nerve of that makcik..

Ini lah dia orang melayu..
Seriouslyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What the F makcik?
Perlu ke sebuk sampai macam tu sekali?

Gaya dia suh aku beristighfar tuh macamkan aku tak pernah berdoa pada Allah nak mintak zuriat sebelom nih? Itu belom gaya dia judging macam kan aku tak reti beristighfar?? Serius WTF sangat kan?? Padahal aku takde intention pon nak share ngan dia aku tgh pregnant.. Cause it is seriously not their bloody business kan..

Ini lah masalah orang melayu especially makcik2 (I'm stereotyping here but who cares kan)..
Bila orang lambat dapat anak sikit mula la depa menyibuk..

Ye betul..
Maybe they have only good intentions..
But the way they convey their nasihat seriously insulting and most of the time hurting!!

Lucky I am already pregnant this time around when she did insult me..
What if I was not pregnant yet..
Mesti balik umah kesat air mata..
Air mata yg pada mulanya langsung takde tanda2 nak keluar pada pagi isnin yg indah ini..

See..
So what did you accomplished so far makcik?
Bagik orang terasa hati and bersedih..
Renti2 kan la menyibuk hal orang..

You got 10 cucu?
Good! Be thankful to Allah..
But don't need to judge other people..
Kalau Allah delaykan  rezeki anak.. ade lah Allah permurahkan rezeki lain tuh..
So takyah la yg menengok tu nak susah hati sangat..

Admittedly, both of us took longer than the deemed normal time to conceived..
So what? Dah itu yg tertulis oleh Allah..
So stop judging and start living your own life!!

Actually case kat atas tuh not the first time when it comes to "unwanted" nasihat..
Orang2 yg senasib ngan Dot mesti faham kan..

So let me give youols (yg senasib ngan Dot) a piece of advice..

"YOU DO NOT NEED TO LISTEN TO EVERY SINGLE ADVICE PEOPLE THROW YOUR WAY!"

Maybe you can listen.. No problem.. Masuk telinga kiri kuar telinga kanan sudah..
And since people have the right to give us unwanted advices.. We in turn have an equal right not to accept them right? It's our BODY.. it's our LIFE.. it's our RIGHTS!

For me..
After a while (5 years tambah tolak) TTC, I only choose to listen to my professional gynae.. Why? Cause i paid good money to get his advice.. After berusaha, the rest hanya berserah dan bertawakal kepada Allah SWT... But hey if you choose other alternative ways, I am totally not judging you.. It's your life remember..

And if i were to listen to every single advice people throw my way..
Hiro, Charlie and TumTum mungkin tgh merempat kat pasar borong Selayang at the moment!!

Buat kawan2 yg sedang TTC,
Dot doakan yg terbaik untuk anda..
May your dream come true soonest possible.. Amin!

PS: I am ever thankful to my families and friends for their support and doa.. Dengan izin Allah and berkat their doa, I am blessed with this tiny miracle growing inside me. Alhamdulillah.

PPS: For those of you who knew anyone whose TTC, please don't give them unwanted advices. Instead of helping, you're only making it worse for them. Instead, just give your support and your doa In sya Allah. 

4 comments:

dhr said...

Tq Dot.... I'm agree with u. We just need a silent doa from them.dan doa mcmtu yg lekas makbul. Congrats & take care!

Farina said...

Bukan u and Leman je yang blur, I pun blur jugak baca. Ape hal makcik nih nak suh org istighfar tetiba. Seriously, ada jugak manusia macam tuh kat dunia nih ek? Kepochi satu hal, pastuh rude gila pulak tuh. Sangat tipikal makcik Melayu dalam drama. *Tepuk dahi*

dot said...

Yup DHR. you take care too.

Hi Dr. Farina. :) ye babe, ni kira baik la sbb berunsurkan islam kan. ade tu siap suruh i pegi mandi bunga or buang kucing2 i lagik. sob sob. Bila doctor balik Malaysia?

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